Gain Happiness Now

Imagine coming back from the shops and showing your shiny new happiness, to your family and friends

Imagine taking your new happiness for a test drive

With your new happiness, you can handle it, and also be happy while handling it

Never mind I can smile while sympathetically letting her unwind

With your Great Happiness you know that whatever happens in life you will happily handle it

Just how much would you pay for this paradise, if you knew that for the rest of your life you could happily deal with everything that life sends your way, good or bad

Imagine knowing that every day for the rest of your life you could happily handle anything and everything

Imagine that you never again let fear stop you from doing what you need to do

Bad News: The bad news is you can't go down the shops and buy Heroic or Great Happiness

You will find Heroic and Great Happiness right here

Is both very easy and also hard, it is instant and a lifetime away

Best of all is an unbreakable commitment to have this happiness come what may

After your decision you must follow through by sticking to it no matter what

You will not be pushed aside from your commitment to have this happiness

It is one of the most important values in your life

Your decision to have this happiness is instant, and will remain instant every time you make this decision to be happy, every day, hour minute

Achieving Heroic Happiness takes a lifetime of practice, and work

The longer you practice it the greater your happiness is for longer

Eventually you will move from being occasionally happy, to having Great Happiness, then having that prized goal of Heroic Happiness

Research shows that only a small percentage of people consider themselves "very happy"

Fortunately, for most people, there is a solution - a way to get started on a path to true, complete, and life-long happiness

You see, the first reason we can't be completely happy is that most of us don't really know what would make us truly happy in life

more money, a better relationship, a more fulfilling job, better looks, having children, less stress, fewer 'problems', or whatever

The truth is, though, most of us don't truly know because we never take the time to really figure it out - partly because it isn't always that easy to determine exactly what we need in our life to be totally happy

I call it our personal Definition of Happiness ' and it is different for everyone

The things that make me happy (or could make me happier) are different than the things that make you happy (or could make you happier)

If you looked up your own personal Definition of Happiness in the dictionary, what would it say

In other words, what is it - exactly and specifically - that would make you totally happy in life

If you could name 5 or 6 things that, if you had them in your life right now, would make you totally and truly happy for the rest of your life - what would they be

But have you ever really sat down and thought about it

And that's one of the main reasons why most people CAN'T be totally happy

It's like wanting to live in a warm, sunny climate and thinking that Seattle is where you want to be ' because it's such a nice place

Yes, it is a great place, but it probably wouldn't really be the right place for you

You would not be totally happy living there (again, even though it's a great place) since Seattle is a somewhat of a cooler, rainier city and what you really want is to live in a warm, sunny place

So, are you certain you know exactly what would make you totally happy in life

Again, most people don't ' mainly because they haven't taken the time and effort to figure it out

And, yes, it can require time and effort (and a lot of thought)

Most people just go through life striving to "be happy" (thinking they know what it would take to get there) but not really knowing

It's no wonder many people never get there (and can't be truly happy)

It's part of the reason why so many "famous", "wealthy", "successful", "healthy" people are miserable

They think the fame, wealth, success, and good health will make them happy (like thinking Seattle is the right place to live) but when they get those things they find out it's not what they really need to be happy

All those things are nice, and may add to a sense of contentment or joy, but it's not enough

It is important to know that the first essential step in the journey to the happiest possible life is to know the destination

That destination is described by your personal Definition of Happiness

Once you define what happiness means for you personally, you will be in a much better position to identify the steps required to get there by creating your personal Happiness Plan ' which is your 'map' for the journey to complete and total happiness and fulfillment

If you need help figuring out what would truly make you happy in life, click here

Your Definition of Happiness is not a personal mission statement or declaration of your purpose in life

It simply means answering the question: what would make you a totally happy and fulfilled person forever

Stated another way, if your life were to include everything written in your personal Definition of Happiness you would be totally happy for life, regardless of the circumstances

As Linda Ellis put it so well in her hugely popular poem called The Dash, it's really all about how you want to live your life (you can get your own copy of The Dash by clicking here - or you can just "experience" the poem by clicking here)

This is about you, your values, your priorities, your passions, and your identity

The main requirement is that it states your true feelings and includes everything required for you to be as happy as possible

It is not easy for most people to define happiness for themselves

It takes considerable thought, honesty, reflection, and introspection

And, it really needs to follow a certain "formula" for it to be valid - and form the foundation for your happiness

For starters, it is best for your Definition of Happiness to consist of the right number of "criteria" required for your happiness

In other words, your definition cannot contain too many or too few of the criteria which are needed for your happiness

For example, if you included only one thing (one criterion) in your definition that is required for your total happiness and it doesn't work out as planned, it will be unlikely that you'll be able to be truly happy in your life

Not only that, it is quite unlikely that anyone would have just one criterion for total happiness

So, if your Definition of Happiness were simply to become wealthy, for example, you would likely never be truly happy if that didn't happen for some reason

Additionally, though, even if you did get wealthy, you would probably still not be really happy if you had terrible relationships, significant regrets, or no self-respect

Wealth, in this example, could be part of your Definition of Happiness, but it should not be your entire definition

And, surely, wealth alone is very rarely (I would say never) anyone's ONLY criterion for happiness

Similarly, if there are too many criteria for you to meet in your personal Definition of Happiness, it is difficult to get them all aligned and you will likely not achieve maximum happiness either

So, for example, if you truly needed wealth, fame, perfect health, good looks, many good friends, a great marriage, an active sex life, enough free time to travel 12 weeks every year, a career as a successful musician, and the freedom to spend lots of time with your children, it might be tough to be totally happy since all those criteria are not likely to be met

You must take the time and effort to create your own personal Definition of Happiness

Guideline number 3 above may need a bit of explanation

'Relatively easy' here basically means setting yourself up for success (i

It doesn't necessarily mean it's a certainty, but it does mean it should be something likely to be achieved if you work on it

Things like 'getting rich' or 'becoming one of the best, most popular musicians in the world', for example, are not easy criteria to meet

They take considerable effort, persistence, maybe some 'luck' and probably the help of other people

'Contributing regularly to the lives of others' and 'pursing personal growth', on the other hand, are relatively easy to achieve ' partly because they are almost entirely within your control

But, as you can see, by 'relatively easy' I don't mean it takes no time or effort ' since, as you can see in my 'easy' examples here, they definitely take focus, commitment, time, and effort as well

Now, as you contemplate your own requirements for happiness (the 'criteria' for your Definition of Happiness), consider questions like:

The most critical factor in creating your personal Definition of Happiness is that it must be your definition

You should even feel some emotion when you read it, because once you have achieved a life totally consistent with your definition, nothing can make you unhappy, regardless of the circumstances that occur in your life, including the inevitable difficulties and challenges we all experience in life

So again, crafting your Definition of Happiness is a very important first step to lifelong happiness

Key Point #1: To be as happy as possible in life, your 'Definition of Happiness' must be fulfilled as completely as possible

Key Point #2: If you are truly happy according to your specific personal Definition of Happiness, nothing can make you unhappy ' even intensely negative situations or circumstances

As with many other happiness-building concepts, as mentioned previously, determining your Definition of Happiness can be difficult

So for additional help in creating your definition, click here

If you listen to the news reports, the key to happiness is to be found in a stack of dollar bills because that is how "they" all measure success and successful people are happy people, right

When people talk about dreams, they often speak of those dreams in terms of things that all cost money

Once you eliminate all of the outside voices, you start to listen to the one inside of you, the voice that is telling you what you need

Sure, you might need to work a job that leaves you less than thrilled to earn enough money to pay the bills, but do you have to stay extra hours at that miserable place if you don't like being there

One study looked at a group of parents who admitted that they did not care for their current job but were not in the position to make a change

Some were asked to work overtime hours and some were not

The people who worked the overtime earned more money than the others but in terms of happiness were either equally as happy or less happy than those who worked fewer hours

The reason was simple: not only were the overtime hours cutting into free time and time spent with family, it ended up costing more to many of the parents in the long run

Once they paid for additional child care, which sometimes meant some stressful negotiating to get the babysitter to stay late or even hiring a second care giver on a temporary basis, their overtime bonus was far lower than expected

If work is not doing it for you it is important to find at least one activity that makes you truly happy

How long has it been since you laughed until you were breathless

How long has it been since you took a nap for no reason or stayed up late to watch a Mel Brooks movie with your favorite person

Only you can hear the voice inside of you that is telling you to buy a red balloon and give it to a frowning child or to dance to the music in the grocery store

Only you know what makes you happiest and only you can get it for you

Happiness is the key to life and it is in your own back pocket

Have you asked yourself at times how can I be happy

Do you feel that there are things stopping your happiness in life

We all face the dilemma of happiness at work. It is one the most important factors that influence the quality of work input by an individual. One falls in either of the two categories, first one is in profession one always wanted to be in or one is in the profession that one didn't expect to be in. In the first case, chances are one would find happiness in most cases. However, the second case is the one most of us belong to. Most of the people in the world are in the profession that didn't want/plan/expect to be in. Nevertheless we should always try to keep ourselves in happiness.

Now in either case, the happiness at work of an individual is mostly always dependent on the individual and rarely on the external factors. Most of us end up continuing working in our non-chosen field because of life pressures/money requirement/ children or other reasons. This leads to more frequent boredom, concentration loss and loss of happiness. We can prevent this by treating ourselves with little goodies every now and then like going on a vacation to maintain our happiness. This way we ensure our happiness is on the priority list and we never fail to be happy at work.

Happiness at work

So many times people tend to complain that the main reason of their unhappiness at work is the boss. It is highly imperative to have an understanding boss who can support in times of need and maintain your levels of happiness. In fact a third of people who leave their jobs is because attitude of their boss and loosing happiness because of him/her. Sometimes it can be challenge to gel with a person but with a careful approach it can be done easily. It is better to be straight forward with your boss regarding your concerns and ensuring your happiness. If he/she doesn't address them repeatedly, it’s better to talk to HR and senior management at once to resolve it so as not to loose your happiness at work. Even HR people would recognize the fact happiness at work is very important and would help one to attain happiness.

Politics at work can be very interruptive to the entire environment and overall bonding levels between staff members and their happiness. Most of unproductive workers are likely to be more politics oriented and find their happiness in it. There are two ways to handle politics in office. The best way is to stay out of politics. Just do your work and don’t get involved in anyone’s business and any nonsense that goes around to keep your happiness intact. Have good relations with anyone and everyone to spread happiness around you. Be sweet to people and they will be good to you to increase happiness score. The second and more daring way is to create your own politics and be on top of anyone else. You create the gossips, news and activities and thus be in control of your happiness. This is often done by those who want to more up the ladder. This way you can be the star and at the same time have people follow you and respect you and increase happiness. This creates space and people look up to you to solve their problems and help to increase their happiness. Politics done in a good way is good for your organization as well. Either way you will be happy as you will be in control of yourself and the situations and have happiness at work.

Happiness at work

People who are not able to perform the job at optimum levels also face the problem of lack of happiness at work. The way out of this is to seek others opinion on how you can be better. It’s also beneficial to check the best practices and seek your superiors help. This would enable their happiness as well as yours. Sometimes a simple demonstration by another person is of great help. I have always followed my method. Whenever I used to come back home, I would spend 5 minutes of time with myself thinking about things that I could improve on the next day and what to do to improve them. These 5 minutes always helped me to stay ahead of the game and become top performer and get higher levels of happiness.

Sometimes some people are also drama kings or drama queens. It is highly suggested not to indulge in such tendencies and stick to the work so as not to fuck the happiness of others. Drama at work place is not appreciated and is a total waste of time. It also helps one to make enemies or rivals at work and reduce happiness levels of everyone around. This is a total waste of time and effort not only for the one who does it but also for the ones around decreasing their overall happiness. There is a total feeling of disgust which begins to affect the general moral and happiness. Usually in such cases the person responsible for it ends up earning the wrath of the management or the people around leading to loss of employment.

There are some workplaces which involve multi-tasking and co-operation and coordination between different departments. People often find it tough in the beginning to adjust in such job roles, which leads to less happiness at work and dissatisfaction. One should give himself/herself more time to adjust in the environment and also try to build better relationships with others. Time also smoothens out things and makes it easier to adjust the pulls and pushes thus leading to better happiness levels.

A lot of times much of the loss of happiness is because of delayed rewards and recognition. Everybody who goes to work needs a little appreciation for the efforts they put in to maintain their happiness levels. If it so happens that the recognition is being delayed time and again then the loss of happiness creeps in. Sometimes the rewards are the form of cash and kind. What the management may not realize is that it may be very essential for the person in the particular month to have some extra money to keep up his happiness or the rewards are an excellent happiness booster for him. What one can do is to inform the responsible and wait for the action. We should also realize that so many times a lot of things are not in our hands and we should keep calm and hope for the best to have sustained levels of happiness. Upon repeated attempts, it’s best advisable to move to a employment which is more employee centric so one can have happiness at work.

In this article I have highlighted several reasons and situations which can be detrimental to an employee’s happiness at work and the steps one can take to correct them. However we live in the world and almost everything is imperfect and it is our own approach to happiness which makes things perfect or not. Our happiness is much more dependent on us and not on others. It is to do with the fact how we approach the issues, whether we take them with cool head or we make a big issue of a trivial matter. One has to adjust to the existing environment and culture of the workplace as it cannot adjust to us. So it’s better we become the kings of our happiness.

Sins of Happiness

You may have material wealth, even power or fame, yet still be unhappy. Or you may have little more than the shoes on your feet yet overflow with joy, because happiness is a state of mind. If you want to be truly happy, you've got to look to yourself because true happiness comes from within.

Allow yourself to be immersed in whatever it is you’re doing right now, and take time to really be in the present moment.Life is too short to wait to be happy.You know what makes you feel good, use some simple ideas to make your day a bit more joyful.

Sins that make happiness very hard to come by -

Comparing Yourself to Others

Talking About Your Dreams Instead of Going to Work on Them

Listening to People With Nothing Positive to Say

Focusing on the News

Deciding Someone Else Needs to Change

Thinking “Happiness” Is a Destination You Can Reach

Forgetting to Say “Thank You”

It’s easy to take for granted all that you have.

Avoid replaying past negative events in your head or worrying about the future.

Happiness is based on worldly accomplishments.

Don't be regretful for what you don't have.

These are some of our common mistakes/biases/mind blocks to happiness, which is a universal and pure feeling to which every individual has a right. It comes from very simple time moments and the maximum happiness is often a result of a trivial action such a smile of a infant or my favourite team on victory. Time has been memorial that happiness comes to those who are content and satisfied and the ones who are greedy and dishonest.

Remove the blocks to your pathway to heaven. Yes !! Happiness is the pathway to heaven and it is right here on earth for us to feel and be a part of it.

Paritosh