Happiness through our relations

“How does real happiness look like?

·         a sense of fulfillment every day;

·         possessing a profound  philosophy;

·         unshakable conviction;

·         living cheerfully and vibrantly;

·         courage;

·         Good listening attitude and broad-mindedness.

When we fall in love our life seems full of energy, excitement, drama like the leading character of a super bollywood film. Love is a force that helps us expand our life and bring forth our innate potential with fresh and dynamic vitality. That is the ideal but, as the saying "Love is blind" illustrates, people often lose all objectivity when they fall in love.

We will never find happiness if we don’t change ourselves from within. It is not someone else like our lover who can do it for us. We have to achieve it by developing our own character capacity, like being human, maximizing our potential. If we sacrifice own growth and capability for love, we will never find happiness. True happiness obtained only when we fully realizing our own potential.

If we are in a relationship which causes our parents to worry, making us to neglect our work and forcing us to act in a destructive behavior, then we and the person we are love is negative influence. We never going to be get happiness as we would end up hurting each other.

If we are neglect the things we are supposed to do, forgetting purpose of life and our relation behind this we are on wrong path. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, the author of The Little Prince, once wrote, "Love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction."

Bottom line is that you are not able to bring best in each other without having respect and happiness in the relation. It is impossible for an egotistic, self-centered individual to truly love another person thus hindering the happiness of both or at least one. If we genuinely love someone then through that relationship we develop such kind of personality where happiness is a good part and it extends to other around us. It would also help us to identify our state of life.

If we want to experience real love, it is most important to first sincerely develop a happy and strong self-identity. True love is not about doing whatever the other person wants or pretending we are something we're not. This confidence in a relationship also contributes to happiness.  

Ultimately happinessrests on how we establish a solid sense of self and knowing one’s needs and wants. It also means being considerate to the needs and wants to the ones we love and who love us.

Ramesh Prasad